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The Secret Tragedy of Working: Work Abuse - PTSD
An Interview with Chauncey Hare, family therapist
© 2000 Marge Mueller
Reproduced with permission

With graduation behind them, students will embark on new careers for the first time. Most will ponder the best job offers, work scenarios or office perks.

For many it will be their first experience as victims of work abuse.

Whether verbal or psychological or even physical, abuse of any form is traumatic for the victim. Chances are you or someone you know has been or will become victimized on the job by maligning supervisors - or worse. Others you've known have been or will become perpetrators of work abuse.

"Work abuse is so prevalent," says Chauncey Hare, co-author of Work Abuse: How to Recognize and Survive It, it's always a shock for someone coming out of school to go into the workplace."

Like child & spousal abuse 30 years ago, work abuse is still ignored by society.

"It's everywhere & it's highly denied," Hare says. "Right now, there's no way for a person to make the distinction between something that's not work abuse & something that is -until he or she goes thru an enormous, highly traumatic situation."

"In any organization that is authoritarian work abuse is prevalent. But because of denial people aren't acknowledging it."

Hare & co-author & wife Judith Wyatt, both licensed psychotherapists in San Francisco, coined the term work abuse in a 1988 report to the California legislature's task force team on self-esteem. According to The Univ. of Michigan Institute for Social Research's statistics, 95% of all work organizations are authoritarian.

"That's where work abuse happens" says Hare "In those 95% of organizations that are authoritarian."

4 Types of Work Abuse

According to Hare, 4 types of work abuse exist. Neglectful or ongoing abuse occurs when employees' basic needs aren't met or they're blamed for expressing these needs. Ongoing abuse often happens in the midst of the other 3 types of work abuse.

In chronic scapegoating one person is chosen for abuse by the group. Everyone joins in as a way to vent negative feelings that can't otherwise be addressed in the work system. If the scapegoat leaves the company, another employee usually assumes the scapegoat role.

With acute scapegoating one person receives the negative treatment - usually because the person's behaviors don't match group norms. The scapegoating stops when this employee leaves the organization.

Denial of due process, the fourth type of work abuse, occurs secondary to the other forms of abuse. With denial of due process the employer prevents or undermines appropriate means to resolve conflicts. Most work "horror stories" are cases of scapegoating resulting from unresolved conflicts.

Why Managers Abuse

Two reasons compel managers to abuse subordinates, according to Hare.

"One is the normative source, which comes from pressure by other managers to abuse," Hare says. "The other is from the internal source that is an accumulation of past injuries that they now have an opportunity to offload."

Hare attributes these injuries to childhood shaming experiences suffered by the manager that continue to manifest through school & into adulthood.

"Even at their last level of education, they've been abused & they've been hurt," Hare says. "So when they move into their profession, they have an opportunity to unload their shame on other people."

Origins of Shame

Hare describes two origins of shame that supervisors offload onto subordinates. One is "depriving shame" where the supervisor wasn't supported or validated as a child. Shame accumulates & the child develops a sense of self-worthlessness.

"Punishing shame" is the other type. Managers who use this were often severely corrected as children. As managers they become highly abusive toward employees.

Shame & Self-worth

According to Hare, shame & self-worth issues play major roles in these individuals' drives to become managers. They climb the social status scale, placing themselves in a position of superiority & self-entitlement.

"Their shaming is an unconscious pattern," he says, "& there are very few people that would admit this. Even most therapists won't admit it."

Denial & Mental illness

The denial of work abuse as a cause of mental illness remains widespread in the mental health community. Hare says this view is due to most psychiatrists & therapists aligning with corporations & management.

"There is this feeling that goes on that working people are "less than," Hare says. "So when the psychiatrist communicates with management there's this underlying current of, 'my client is "less than." My client can't accommodate your workplace.' "

Furthermore, Hare says psychiatrists view the workplace as normal & healthy & they blame the victim, also. Few psychiatrists are aware that most work organizations are authoritarian & the cause of mental health disability.

"Mental health professionals then communicate to the workplace that there's some problem with this employee," Hare says. "Never that there is some problem with that organization."

Post Traumatic Stress

Hare & Wyatt have documented work abuse as causing symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in victims.

Some become disabled because of their abuse by supervisors. Most work abuse victims suffer from some symptoms of PTSD, including flashbacks, nightmares, irritability, insomnia & poor concentration.

Work Abuse & Disability: Who's to Blame?

Receiving a PTSD disability claim resulting from work abuse is rare, according to Hare. He says one reason is because of the financial support the mental health field receives from employers thru insurance payments.

The main reason for denial of PTSD-related disability is that, like society, mental health professionals blame the victim for his or her symptoms.

Often, the psychiatrist will diagnose the illness as depression, anxiety, adjustment disorder or borderline personality disorder. The victim's illness appears to be an inherent problem with the abused individual.

"I've run into many people who have these kinds of diagnoses," Hare says. "Sometimes they've been in therapy a couple of years with these erroneous diagnoses."

Blame by One's Support System: Self-preservation & Denial

If work abuse is so widespread one may wonder why society, coworkers & even family members blame the victim. Hare says most people don't want to believe work abuse exists, especially if they've worked many years.

"After 40 or 50 years they don't want to now discover the truth," Hare says. "You don't like being reminded of your pain. You can't afford to break the denial on it after so many years."

Denial & Stigmatization

The denial of work abuse stigmatizes the victim. Other employees may ostracize an abused coworker to protect their own sense of denial.

"There's ongoing, neglectful abusive behavior happening all the time," Hare says. "So, when a scapegoat is chosen, he or she is really a stand-in or diversion so that people don't have to confront the problem inherent in the work system. Everyone participates in scapegoating the one individual in order to avoid focusing on the deeper systems problem."

The Media's Role

Society also perpetuates the denial of work abuse thru the media, according to Hare.

"They want to keep this entire thing a secret," Hare says. "They're aligned with the top management of these corporations because they're funded by them. So they don't dare call attention to work abuse."

Excellent Workers & Non-conformists

Hare says victims of work abuse are usually not selected at random. Those at greatest risk are employees who don't conform to a company's norms, which are the unique & unconscious rules of each work system.

Norms are enforced by members of each workplace. Employees may not even be aware when they aren't conforming & then wonder why they've been chosen to be the group's scapegoat.

Abusive work systems often mimic dysfunctional families & employees adopt similar behaviors at work that they maintained in their own families.

"If their personal behavior patterns are far different from the norms," Hare says, "then these are the people that get picked on the most.

"The people who have their own ideas & speak out, they can be pretty severely abused. So it's very possible for an excellent worker to be abused."

How to Determine if You're Being Work Abused

With ongoing abuse, basic work needs are denied. This includes not obtaining validation, information, encouragement & communication from management or fellow coworkers. Most employees experience work abuse like this & fail to recognize it, because it's "normal."

"People just get used to this treatment," Hare says. "It's like fish in water. They can't see it because they're in the middle of it & used to it."

With scapegoating, victims also exhibit personal behaviors vastly different from the organizations' norms. Hare uses the example of women who enter predominantly male professions, such as the police department.

"In order to stay there you have to take on a lot of male kinds of behavior," Hare says. "Otherwise you wouldn't be allowed to stay. You would get pushed out."

You May Not Recognize That You're Being Work Abused

Work abuse is so prevalent, victims often don't realize they are being maligned. Hare says most can't break the denial that prevents them from seeing their own work abuse until they experience a severely traumatic situation.

"You get a gut-level interest when you've been beaten to hell & then you break denial; it may take that much." Hare says.

"Beaten to hell" can be literal or figurative. Hare, formerly an engineer, experienced work abuse so severe, though not physical, it led him to become a therapist in order to help others recover from their abuse.

How People Adapt to Abusive Work

Most workers remain in abusive work settings because they haven't experienced that traumatic experience yet. Workers stay in abusive organizations by adapting to their companies' norms. Hare says there are 3 stages of adaptation.

Observing & assessing the behaviors of others in the organization is the 1st step. Next is changing one's behaviors to align with others behaviors. This is difficult because it involves the new employee changing his or her own beliefs. Lastly, the employee starts enforcing these behaviors - enforcing the norms - on other employees.

"In the adaptation process," Hare says, "you finally say to yourself, "Hey this is reality. Up to now, I didn't know what reality was."

"The funny thing is if you visit lots & lots of companies as I have, you'll see so many different combinations of norms & you'll see all these different realities." Hare says he has visited more than 1000 workplaces during more than 25 years of study of this problem.

In authoritarian organizations systems problems are blamed on individuals. And task accomplishment is secondary, even if it means the company loses money.

"They'd rather have that exercise of power than productivity & money," Hare says. "If that weren't the case, those organizations would change because the technology (to change) is known."

Collaborative Organizations Not Authoritarian Ones

Hare refers to collaborative organizations, where everyone works together making decisions. Communications are honest. Task accomplishment is foremost.

"Usually in a collaborative organizations, you'll find the people at the top have a lot of empathy & really align with the workers," Hare says.

"Once people have felt & experienced a collaborative work group, they never forget it. You never want to go back (to an authoritarian system). If the public had enough awareness - less ignorance - about the work abuse issue, there would be a demand for collaborative organizations."

Surviving an Abusive Work Situation

Since there are so few collaborative organizations currently, abused workers must survive within an authoritarian system. Recognizing what work abuse is makes it possible to survive.

"You have to go thru almost a spiritual transformation," Hare says. "You're looking at people around you, recognizing that they're in ignorance. They don't know what you know. They haven't been thru the trauma & they're hiding out. So, you have to get very compassionate toward them rather than getting angry at them."

Hare says the most effective tool in surviving an abusive work setting, besides becoming more aware about work abuse, is to maintain self-control at work. He warns against adopting feelings of injustice or of the need to act out against the employer.

"People don't understand that the whole situation is unjust from day one," Hare says. "When you understand why this is happening, then you can let go of needing to react."

Healing from Work Abuse

Hare says there are 4 steps to healing from work abuse. Release of hurt feelings & validation of one's experiences is the first step. Next is "ordering of events" or developing an explanation of what happened. Then shame healing or getting beyond self-blame can be addressed. Integration of the trauma into one's life journey is the final step.

This final integration step often involves the survivor dedicating a part of his or her life to addressing the work abuse issue in a more global way. This is the route Hare has chosen.

"The way forward is to have more & more people acknowledge work abuse," Hare says. "The technology of successful change already exists, it's not a secret. Management will be forced to change work systems when workers & the public demand the change."

How to Survive a Bad Boss

Coping with the monster manager

by Mary Brandel
 
January 23, 2006 (Computerworld)
 
William McQuiston retires this month as CIO at Truman Medical Centers Inc. in Kansas City, Mo., after 41 years in IT. But he still vividly recalls the boss who made his life miserable in the mid-1980s. That difficult period followed his acceptance of a position at a county medical center.

McQuiston was hired to work on a 4 person team that was moving one hospital's registration, billing & accounts-receivable system in-house. The team was led by a former PC technician who'd moved quickly up the ranks based on his technology prowess. McQuiston was eager to please his new boss.
 
"I'd been out of work 6 months, so I was totally elated to have a job & would have done anything for that guy for the simple fact that he hired me," he recalls.
But that was easier said than done. It quickly became apparent that McQuiston's manager was distrustful of the hospital's intentions & paranoid that his newfound power wouldn't last.
 
"Everyone he dealt with he didn't trust," McQuiston says. The boss withdrew & began concealing information from the very people he should have been forming relationships with, including the outsourcing partner, the CIO & the vendor involved in the project.
The situation soured further when McQuiston - who had 17 years of experience in health care - became the go-to guy for answering tough systems questions, leaving the manager even further out of the loop. "He turned inward & wasn't doing much management at all," he remembers.

Looking back, McQuiston sees his former manager as a classic example of a specific type of bad boss:
the overgrown technologist who gets rewarded for brilliant technical work by being promoted to a position for which he's not qualified.
Nearly anyone who has worked in IT is familiar with this all-too-common scenario of a technologically brilliant boss with no management skills. Unfortunately, this is just one of many bad manager scenarios in IT.

Very few people make good managers if they're promoted for the wrong reasons, says Paul Glen, author of Leading Geeks (Josey Bass, 2002), president of C2 Consulting in Los Angeles and a Computerworld columnist.
 
Criteria such as technical capabilities or a domineering personality may lead to managerial positions more often than, say, a desire to help other people. "A good manager finds satisfaction in helping others be productive, not being the most productive person in the room," Glen says.

More bad news:
It's highly unlikely that a manager who starts out bad will improve, Glen says. So if you're stuck with a bad boss & don't want to leave your job, what do you do? Here are some tactics that have enabled IT folks to survive despite a monster manager.
Focus on the Work

One survival strategy
is to maintain an unwavering focus on the work that needs to be done rather than letting your energy be drawn into the vortex of a toxic personality. That's the tack McQuiston took.
 
"It was absolutely uncomfortable, but my overarching principle was to keep my motivation pure," he says. "We had our work cut out for us, and the more I focused on that, the fewer cycles I had to get involved in gossip. When people start going with that negative energy, it goes the wrong way."

As he focused on the work, McQuiston soon found the group looking to him for leadership & when his boss was given 6 months to find another position, McQuiston was asked to lead the system conversion.
 
Hunker Down

Similarly, when John Wade, now CIO at Saint Luke's Health System Inc.
in Kansas City, Mo., started his first IT job, at Polaroid Corp., he soon discovered the downside of his boss's personality. Though extroverted & a master politician with his peers & superiors, the boss was passive-aggressive & unsupportive of his team.

"You felt like you were just floundering," Wade says. But while the 3 people on the team commiserated among themselves, they considered it politically unwise to take their complaints outside their circle. "We didn't try to end-run him because we figured his boss must think he's doing a good job," Wade says.

Wade wanted to continue working at Polaroid, so instead of suffering in the shadow cast by this manager, he determined to let his capabilities shine thru to anyone who might notice. "I figured, 'This guy isn't going to help me; I have to redouble my efforts to be successful & outperform on my own,'" he says.

Eventually, after a change of management at the company, the boss was transferred to a different department. The replacement manager was tough, Wade says, but a guy who inspired his team to give 110%.

While taking this "hunker down" mentality, it helps to minimize interactions with the boss, except when you know the exchange will be a positive one.
 
 
"It's possible to have a functioning relationship with your manager that involves only a minimum of interaction," says Scott Berkun, an independent project management & product design consultant. "As long as you & your manager agree on your goals, how you go about getting your work done shouldn't matter."
As for positive exchanges, he suggests going out of your way to keep your manager happy & even doing things that help him believe whatever he needs to believe, be it that he's always right or that every issue & decision is all about him.
 
"You can view this as a tax on the work, sort of like filling out forms or other administrivia," Berkun says.

C.Y.A.

The hunker-down approach worked for Peter Baker, vice president of information systems & technology at Emcor Facilities Services Inc., a subsidiary of Emcor Group Inc. in Arlington, Va. Baker once worked as a project lead for a micro-manager who interfered with the work of the programmers. Baker advised his team members to stay out of the manager's way, avoid the politics & focus on their jobs.

He also suggested that they take 10 minutes each afternoon to document everything they'd done that day. "I remember sitting them down & saying, 'This guy is always going to come in & ask you, "What about this, this & this?" And you can just pull out your piece of paper & say, "I did that, that & that.'" It was kind of a capitulation, but we turned it into a positive by being proactive."


The technique worked. "He was looking for reasons to [complain], so if you didn't give him any, he'd move on to an easier target," Baker says.

Take Action

Laying low isn't always the best tactic. Sometimes it's better to lay out your needs on the manager's desk and at least see how he responds. The first step is to define exactly what those needs are, such as ownership of certain kinds of decisions, more resources or just the room to succeed or fail on your own, Berkun says.

"Once you've defined exactly what you need, prioritized it and translated it into terms your manager might understand, you bring those requirements to them," he says. "If the response isn't favorable, you know exactly where you stand, which is important. You can confidently make decisions based on the reality of your situation."

That's what Wade did when he accepted a job at Children's Hospital Boston in the 1970's. He wasn't overly impressed with his new boss, but he saw great growth potential at the hospital, in an atmosphere he found interesting. "I figured I'd demonstrate to myself that I'd learned to turn around a bad situation & that in 5 years, this guy will move on," Wade says. 

Despite the positive attitude, Wade's first 7 months were "absolute hell," he recounts.
 
The boss was a classic crisis manager who would inevitably find reasons several times a week to call "emergency" meetings at 4:30 p.m. for the entire IT management group - & then not even stay for the entire meeting. "The meetings would run 3 hours & this guy would leave at 6:15," Wade says.

Wade's interpretation was that the boss - an ex-salesman - didn't feel competent to solve problems that came up & figured if he got all the managers together, they'd get the problems fixed.

One day, Wade took a stand. He walked into the boss's office & said, "When you're not there providing leadership, we come out of these meetings without much more [direction] than what we went in with. So next time there's a crisis meeting, I'll have a letter in my hand & it'll be my resignation."

The tactic worked. After that, when the boss called a meeting, it was better planned & better timed & he was there to provide guidance. "It was almost like by channeling the guy, he became more effective," Wade says. The manager was eventually let go & Wade became CIO at the hospital.

Despite Wade's success, working for a bad boss usually means either accepting the situation for what it is & behaving accordingly, or planning your exit strategy, C2's Glen says.

"Can bosses get better? Sure," he says. "They do so because they discover new things and realize how badly they've been doing. But relying on that is like waiting to win the lottery. You can't teach your boss."
 
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